When love hurts

Today morning I was going through an article in TOI Bangalore Times, (now a days that is the only thing i read, when news becomes gossip, then it is best to read what gossip coloumn has to offer). there was this article "When love actually hurts" a few excrepts from the same.

Mental or emotional abuse is as damaging as physical abuse, though it is often harder to recognise, and therefore to recover from. Emotional abuse causes long term self-esteem issues and profound emotional repercussions for the partners of abusers. Abuse typically alternates with declarations of love and statements that they will change, providing a "hook" to keep the partner in the relationship. The process of 'enslavement'
• The perpetrator feels the need to humiliate, disempower, isolate and gain control over as much of their partner's life as possible
• Slowly, they start to gain control over them financially (for example, not wanting her to work), what they wear, weigh, look like, where they go and who they associate with
• They try to disconnect their partner from any social, religious or family relationships
• They're jealous of their partner's past relationships and try to make her destroy anything that reminds her of the past
• The more they can isolate their partner, the more control they'll have over them
• The abuser needs to become the most important and most powerful thing in his victim's life. They need their affirmation and demand respect, gratitude and love. Over time, they become unpredictable and erratic in their behaviour towards their partner
• Their jealousy makes them becomes violent and angry. Afterwards they feel guilty and upset, and worry that they've lost control over their partner.

It was pretty insightful, do I have the traits of a perpetrator. I guess so, so the only way I can except a relationship is if I have the upper hand ? I am not too sure about that though.
I fight against the enslavement instinct at all times. I am very sure about this.
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~asto' ma sat gamaya